You are carrying a negative attitude. A remark of shocking surprise and full of frustration for me. Most embarrassing at the same time. I was feeling to kill the person or hit very badly.
But somebody asked from my inside, "Are you not?"
Amazing question to keep me silent for sometime.
The reply was, yes I am. When just a simple negative line from another person provoked me so high inside, although calm on my face, I am really carrying a negative attitude.
I have started to learn this feeling from different experience and emotional juggling in my inside.
How do I feel when somebody push me in a high rush bus or a road side? What are the things come to my focus at first when I move to a restaurant, for some window shopping? A good work or a mistake? What do I see first when somebody ask me for my professional opinion on his work or work of some other person ? If somebody gets enter in queue wrongly, How do I react? Do I able to make myself comfortable in a training of a person, to whom I do not take an authority or felt incompetent? How do I react on proved wrong? How do I take conflict of interest?
At the red light on a late day to office. Waiting on a bank cashier window. When somebody uses me for the good faith. When I feel, being used and so on...
Many feelings many events. And all are not free from negative emotions.
I learn from that day to change each of my experience into a good one. Giving good memory account to the mind. The use of all the time going wasted.
I learn to win from inside and outside, I learn winning together.
Friday, March 19, 2010
Monday, March 15, 2010
Forgiveness
Forgiveness...
A quality of a human, a prayer to god, a way to love by motherhood. A way to get rid of all the miseries and sorrows. To have a strong relationship. To be happy always.
How does this forgiveness completes? Is there any process of doing it? What are the steps ?
When I seek the apology, the forgiveness, it means I have done it wrongly. It may be intentionally or unintentionally. The acceptance of something happened wrong, taking the responsibility of the same. A promise of "I do not repeat". Facing the fears from the front. An act of boldness, not of proud.
Giving right to the other whether he accepts it or not. It's a seeking mode. The request, not a demand or an order. It carry the humbleness The submissiveness. But do we ask the "Sorry " with the same feelings and promise.
When somebody requests you to forgive him. It is your duty to forgive the other person. Whether he does carry the above qualities or not. The person who forgive is always at the upper hand. The giver is always at high altitude having high attitude. Having the emotions to lift the other up, not your own ego. Forgiving is incomplete without forgetting. One should not repeat the event or anything of it to anyone, including himself. The forgiveness without forgetting is fake and incomplete. It's illusion to self.
When you accept others with such forgiveness and seek it from others in such a manner, its winning - winning together.
A quality of a human, a prayer to god, a way to love by motherhood. A way to get rid of all the miseries and sorrows. To have a strong relationship. To be happy always.
How does this forgiveness completes? Is there any process of doing it? What are the steps ?
When I seek the apology, the forgiveness, it means I have done it wrongly. It may be intentionally or unintentionally. The acceptance of something happened wrong, taking the responsibility of the same. A promise of "I do not repeat". Facing the fears from the front. An act of boldness, not of proud.
Giving right to the other whether he accepts it or not. It's a seeking mode. The request, not a demand or an order. It carry the humbleness The submissiveness. But do we ask the "Sorry " with the same feelings and promise.
When somebody requests you to forgive him. It is your duty to forgive the other person. Whether he does carry the above qualities or not. The person who forgive is always at the upper hand. The giver is always at high altitude having high attitude. Having the emotions to lift the other up, not your own ego. Forgiving is incomplete without forgetting. One should not repeat the event or anything of it to anyone, including himself. The forgiveness without forgetting is fake and incomplete. It's illusion to self.
When you accept others with such forgiveness and seek it from others in such a manner, its winning - winning together.
Tuesday, March 9, 2010
Live every day winning inside out. Winning together.
When I studied Maslows Hierachy Needs, it was a course., a subject. The importance was only from examination point of view. With every day passing from there, and now after more than one and a half decade, it is looking more relevant to me.
In India, a land of love and emotions, in so called undeveloped India, the beginning of primary need or the needs for which people were living was from middle to top on that graph.Nobody was beginning from the bottom one.
People were living more for family, friendship, respect for others and self. The social development was in such a wonderful way that everything was having a particular time and every achievement was a celebration. The morality was guaranteed. The top of the need.
Now today, when we felt developed, everybody is working on the basic two needs. They are so occupied in those two needs that feeling of top three is looking vanished from their lives People are working for security, for basic needs i.e food, shelter, clothing etc. etc... No time to think or feel that we have stepped down on that hierarchy needs which starts from physiological to self actualisation.
The mythology and the preaching of the elders in the family was the foundation of that society. People were living there, for relations, morality, family and society. Today we are leaving all. Life is a vicious circle. We have followed the so called developed nations and stepped down to bottom line. And there after getting all in the physiological needs and safety, they moved to upper levels. More we are focused on bottom lines higher we develop insecure.
The people, who work for distinctions or full marks, do never feel insecurity to qualify. The base of every human society is relation, family, morality and self actualization. Is it the right time to stop and think, when would you start your journey to the top needs ?
The day you begin , the satisfaction of your lower ones is an auto process.
It would be living every day winning inside out. Winning together.
In India, a land of love and emotions, in so called undeveloped India, the beginning of primary need or the needs for which people were living was from middle to top on that graph.Nobody was beginning from the bottom one.
People were living more for family, friendship, respect for others and self. The social development was in such a wonderful way that everything was having a particular time and every achievement was a celebration. The morality was guaranteed. The top of the need.
Now today, when we felt developed, everybody is working on the basic two needs. They are so occupied in those two needs that feeling of top three is looking vanished from their lives People are working for security, for basic needs i.e food, shelter, clothing etc. etc... No time to think or feel that we have stepped down on that hierarchy needs which starts from physiological to self actualisation.
The mythology and the preaching of the elders in the family was the foundation of that society. People were living there, for relations, morality, family and society. Today we are leaving all. Life is a vicious circle. We have followed the so called developed nations and stepped down to bottom line. And there after getting all in the physiological needs and safety, they moved to upper levels. More we are focused on bottom lines higher we develop insecure.
The people, who work for distinctions or full marks, do never feel insecurity to qualify. The base of every human society is relation, family, morality and self actualization. Is it the right time to stop and think, when would you start your journey to the top needs ?
The day you begin , the satisfaction of your lower ones is an auto process.
It would be living every day winning inside out. Winning together.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Life is the best teacher
Life is the best teacher, provided, one should be a good student.
Today in the era of information and technology, people are more confident on the information than on the practical experience. The lack of integrity always doubt the surety of the possible outcome. We are more dependent on the maps which shows the roads and bridges but misses the uneven patches and the speed breakers.
One day on a dense foggy day, I was traveling in a public transport. The driver was at his average normal speed, which was looking very high that day, but was safe. I asked him, " How could you drive so good in these days even?"
He replied, " Sir ! I am driving it for last thirty years. All the road, lights, speed breakers and different stoppages are even known to my hands and feet also."
This is what a life can teach, not the theories.
Today in the era of information and technology, people are more confident on the information than on the practical experience. The lack of integrity always doubt the surety of the possible outcome. We are more dependent on the maps which shows the roads and bridges but misses the uneven patches and the speed breakers.
One day on a dense foggy day, I was traveling in a public transport. The driver was at his average normal speed, which was looking very high that day, but was safe. I asked him, " How could you drive so good in these days even?"
He replied, " Sir ! I am driving it for last thirty years. All the road, lights, speed breakers and different stoppages are even known to my hands and feet also."
This is what a life can teach, not the theories.
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