Praying Winning Together

In the journey of success and reaching mile stones of achievements, many people contribute. While sitting in my prayer, talking to my God, I requested Him to bless all those people with happiness, peace, relations and with a lot may things in addition to the source to live.

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He asked me to name all the people. I named my family, my friends, my teachers, my neighbours, my colleagues. Than when I searched something deep, I requested Him to bless those also whom I missed. He told me to be specific. I requested him for my transport, my vendors, my customer, the rickshaw pullers, service providers at my hotel stays and a lot many.

He asked me, “Is it over or still remaining with some people?’

I replied, “I feel I am complete.”

He whispered in my ears, “You missed those, who provoked you to do something beyond the bars, the people who had hurt you deep, deep inside your self esteem, to make you stand high. There are people who haven’t supported you, on your expectation, to make you vigil about your strengths. Count them my son.”

The name of all those people can be counted on fingers. The count was very less than of first category. I realized that many of my achievements are only due to them.

The lesson I got from my prayer:

1. The people who helped me are numerous as of those who have not.

2. The people of second category were of much greater importance in many of my achievements.

3. The realization of, what I felt is my achievement, does always owes to many people.

4. The same responsibility I always carry for others, although to be in first category.

I prayed for the blessing for all the above people. This is praying for winning together. This is wining together.

4 A'S - BUILDING CONFIDENCE IN CHILD

Ask More
A child went to a zoo and started giving nuts to the monkeys. A care taker stops him and asked, “Haven’t you seen the sign Board?” The sign Board was “Do Not give them Eatables, it harms.”

The child replied, “Have you asked them”?

Yes, really we live in perceptions. We Don't ask. Don’t try to understand. Don’t anticipate. We force our likings and understandings on them. We live in symptoms not the reasons. Understand your child by asking. Asking not investigating. Encourage your child to share reasons with you.

Accept their reasons
Accept absolutely. Accept in full. Accept the reasons whatsoever given to you by your children. It gives them courage to share with you. Your role is to correct and understand them what you have done and why. You purpose can never be the fault finder. Never jump to conclusions. Accept them every time.

Accept them as an independent identity
Accept them as an independent identity. Always count them. Count them when you hiring seats, buying items per person. Ask them to order their menu. Ask for their choice. Give them space to choose their dishes for lunch, the type of milk etc. It will give not only make them the confident but also a sign of responsibility on actions.

Never compare them with anybody.

Take them from their Age

Taking the children from their age is very important. It’s like coming to your knees to dress them. To let them eat from your hands. To knelt down to listen them. Same way be a child when you listen them. When they share with you. When they do mis-take. When they fight or experiment.

The Confidence in your Child is your winning, Winning Together.

Be there always...

Though we read and repeat about it, but miss to give due importance to very little – little things. It may, to carry children to their school bus, to receive them on their return, to attend their parent teacher meeting or school function etc. Returning back to home after the pressure day work, rarely allow to attend the children regularly. Ask them to share their day or school with you.

Once it was Sunday and I have decided to attend a function of my younger daughter. I have promised her as she was in preparatory school and a participant in three programs.

I feel ashamed for not attending the previous times, when I saw her stepping up on the stage and was keeping her eye to locate us in audience. After finding us, her smile and confidence poured me with tears of joy.

It was the first time I have understood her school, teachers and their vision.

From that day onwards I understand that “Be there always” when their eyes are looking for you. When they are searching for your ears to share their feeling with you.

Now I try to take them to school bus. On weekend I propose myself to wait for their bus. The way the lift their bags, the dust on their clothes and faces. The art on their hands. Their innocent and naughty smile. It takes me back to my childhood.

They show me their bags and working at school. The remarks on their notebooks. I got the chance to understand them and correct it whenever I feel it necessary.

I respond them, first I listen properly and than I reply them complete. I am getting myself in, into their life. They have started feeling their importance in my life. They are making my feelings important for them.

Their morning starts by hugging me, kissing me on my forehead with the morning wish. Their day end and sound sleep require my arm to put on their head upon or my presence with my hands in their hairs.

I can earn more money than I need or expect but can’t get the childhood of my children again. My childhood in them again. Rightly said, “Any success outside cannot compensate the failure at home.”

My stress doesn’t require any management now. To be very honest, it vanishes just with the feeling of their presence. I never miss my goal now. I know for what I am working for.

I have started winning, Winning Together

Eating Habit

As a routine the mother of my children used to run after them for taking their food. They kept their strength always. The race ends in highest shout and their tears. Many times they take their bed without food or leave a lot behind unfinished.

During the day also it was very hard to make them for proper meals. As their mother has to do a lot other things and rare have a fix spare time to invest for their eating, it was taking a routine for not having proper meals.

One day keeping my basics right, I call upon my young champs. After hugging and making some fun, I ask them about their dream to grow strong and intelligent. As usual the reply was yes.

I have asked them, “Do you like to have a secret?” The secret was of my childhood. The success mantra which was disclosed to me by my mother and grandmother. They accepted. I have told them, it is all about the eating. I will tell you one time one secret and than another when you follow the first one.

The food is the blessings of God. We should wash our hands before eating, offer it first to God, thanks Him for his love, eat at one place, don’t talk and view T.V. in between. The food is to be chewed and keep your mouth closed. When you chew, your teeth become stronger. Take the dishes which you can finish, because after offered to God it because ‘Prasadam’, it can’t be let behind. After food wash your hand and mouth, dry your hands.

I have taken one week to make the secret unfold in full. After that they were with their previous way again, but now following some of the secrets told to them.

Every time I appreciate for what they have done and try to ask them what’s missed. I have encouraged them slowly and with the efforts of two months, its their habit now.

Some interesting changes develops in me too. I have to stop taking my calls in between the food now. It may of any importance because it’s the question of my children’s life. No T.V. even if there will be an important match or serial. Sorry!

Really we also learn with our children. It’s winning together.