Parenting ( My Children) - Eating habits

As a routine the mother of my children used to run after them for taking their food. They kept their strength always. The race ends in highest shout and their tears. Many times they take their bed without food or leave a lot behind unfinished.

During the day also it was very hard to make them for proper meals. As their mother has to do a lot other things and rare have a fix spare time to invest for their eating, it was taking a routine for not having proper meals.

One day keeping my basics right, I call upon my young champs. After hugging and making some fun, I ask them about their dream to grow strong and intelligent. As usual the reply was yes.

I have asked them, “Do you like to have a secret?” The secret was of my childhood. The success mantra, which was disclosed to me by my mother and their grandmother. They accepted. I have told them, it is all about the eating. I will tell you one time one secret and than another when you follow the first one.

The food is the blessings of God. We should wash our hands before eating, offer it first to God, thanks Him for his love, eat at one place, don’t talk and view T.V. in between. The food is to be chewed and keep your mouth closed. When you chew, your teeth become stronger. Take the only those dishes and in such a quantity that you can finish, because after offered to God it become ‘Prasadam’, and it can’t be left unfinished. After food wash your hand and mouth, dry your hands.

I have taken one week to make the secret unfold in full. After that they were with their previous way again, but now following some of the secrets told to them.

Every time I appreciate for what they have done and try to ask them what’s missed. I have encouraged them slowly and with the efforts of two months, it’s their habit now.

Some interesting changes develop in me too. I have stopped taking my calls in between the food now. It may of any importance because it’s the question of my children’s life. No T.V. even if there will be an important match or serial. Sorry!

Really we also learn with our children. It’s winning together.

Parenting ( My Children) - I

“My Daddy is the best”. When the sweetness of these words enters to the ears, this moment always have a great feeling. A feeling of an achievement. It always keeps me alerting. A direct ask. An ask of keeping me on toes. It asks me to be the role model of my children.

A wonderful experience to play an important role. A role of a parent. A role of ideal. An opportunity to draw a portrait. A portrait which will keep my child always progressive. Whenever my child feels something missing, indecisive, in a position of dilemma, this portrait will be the reply for all.

A write up of a character. In this character actor-director, both is me. It may not resemble to any reality of my life but it will be a reality for the life of my child.

It requires changing some basic habits. Developing which I feel right. Which is time tested and based on the natural laws. In simple I am impliedly coaching my child without saying any words. The senses of my child always work as an input device and create a strong base in the memory. The number of stories will be created in the mind for each activity. These stories will drive the whole life thereafter.

The basic habits of the parents like getting early in the morning, caring health, time share for family in a day, one time meals with them, everything have a place and everything at the place, facing truth and doing the right always. Others are like keeping words, staying with their decisions, taking their responsibility, always be a part of solutions and a lot many same skills and intellect.

Readings shows that the entire thesis, it may of medical science and psychology, are unanimous on the effect of childhood on the development and success for rest of the life. Parents are the source of first and the lasting effects.

Some important things should be taken care off, in the presence of children. The relations of parents should also be soft. The respect, regards, affection, understand, love and care between parents are of special importance. Especially for their mother, children are very sensitive.

This will keep on continue… This is winning together.

A Decision

One day I was going to my younger brother’s house on a rickshaw. As per my nature, I asked him, ‘is this rickshaw your or on hire?’

He replied, ‘on hire sahib”.

After having a chat with him, I came to know that the rickshaw has a daily rent of Rs.15 and the cost of it is about Rs.6000.00.

I ask him, why don’t you buy it, instead of paying something daily? His replies was surprising, His reasons where not less than taught to any business manager in any standard business school.

I am not here for permanent. For temporary use, why should I buy?

I don’t know whether this will work for me or not.

The general wear and tear is of owner. I only pay if damage is asking for a big cost.

The insurance is bought by the owner.

I don’t have any financial liability on me for it. I am stress free.

The rickshaw doesn’t have a good re-sale value. After a fixed period I have to buy a new one.

It requires a place to keep, when I don’t work. The responsibility of it will be mine, if I buy.

I wish to grow in life, and this can never be an asset for that. I can earn my livings by efforts on it, not the life.

I have congratulated him. He possessed a right understanding and power of explaining his point of view.

A little learning a day from anybody can develop a man to great heights. Learning can be from anybody and at any place. They either strengthen my basics or provide me new way to look at the things.

The appreciation and encouragement have created a wonderful smile on his face. I felt winning, winning together.