Be there always...

Though we read and repeat about it, but miss to give due importance to very little – little things. It may, to carry children to their school bus, to receive them on their return, to attend their parent teacher meeting or school function etc. Returning back to home after the pressure day work, rarely allow to attend the children regularly. Ask them to share their day or school with you.

Once it was Sunday and I have decided to attend a function of my younger daughter. I have promised her as she was in preparatory school and a participant in three programs.

I feel ashamed for not attending the previous times, when I saw her stepping up on the stage and was keeping her eye to locate us in audience. After finding us, her smile and confidence poured me with tears of joy.

It was the first time I have understood her school, teachers and their vision.

From that day onwards I understand that “Be there always” when their eyes are looking for you. When they are searching for your ears to share their feeling with you.

Now I try to take them to school bus. On weekend I propose myself to wait for their bus. The way the lift their bags, the dust on their clothes and faces. The art on their hands. Their innocent and naughty smile. It takes me back to my childhood.

They show me their bags and working at school. The remarks on their notebooks. I got the chance to understand them and correct it whenever I feel it necessary.

I respond them, first I listen properly and than I reply them complete. I am getting myself in, into their life. They have started feeling their importance in my life. They are making my feelings important for them.

Their morning starts by hugging me, kissing me on my forehead with the morning wish. Their day end and sound sleep require my arm to put on their head upon or my presence with my hands in their hairs.

I can earn more money than I need or expect but can’t get the childhood of my children again. My childhood in them again. Rightly said, “Any success outside cannot compensate the failure at home.”

My stress doesn’t require any management now. To be very honest, it vanishes just with the feeling of their presence. I never miss my goal now. I know for what I am working for.

I have started winning, Winning Together

Eating Habit

As a routine the mother of my children used to run after them for taking their food. They kept their strength always. The race ends in highest shout and their tears. Many times they take their bed without food or leave a lot behind unfinished.

During the day also it was very hard to make them for proper meals. As their mother has to do a lot other things and rare have a fix spare time to invest for their eating, it was taking a routine for not having proper meals.

One day keeping my basics right, I call upon my young champs. After hugging and making some fun, I ask them about their dream to grow strong and intelligent. As usual the reply was yes.

I have asked them, “Do you like to have a secret?” The secret was of my childhood. The success mantra which was disclosed to me by my mother and grandmother. They accepted. I have told them, it is all about the eating. I will tell you one time one secret and than another when you follow the first one.

The food is the blessings of God. We should wash our hands before eating, offer it first to God, thanks Him for his love, eat at one place, don’t talk and view T.V. in between. The food is to be chewed and keep your mouth closed. When you chew, your teeth become stronger. Take the dishes which you can finish, because after offered to God it because ‘Prasadam’, it can’t be let behind. After food wash your hand and mouth, dry your hands.

I have taken one week to make the secret unfold in full. After that they were with their previous way again, but now following some of the secrets told to them.

Every time I appreciate for what they have done and try to ask them what’s missed. I have encouraged them slowly and with the efforts of two months, its their habit now.

Some interesting changes develops in me too. I have to stop taking my calls in between the food now. It may of any importance because it’s the question of my children’s life. No T.V. even if there will be an important match or serial. Sorry!

Really we also learn with our children. It’s winning together.